Marriage doesn't make the disagreements go away, it makes the situation worse because each person feels trapped in the relationship.
This doesn't mean that even in the best marriage there will not be arguments.
You simply need to find the one with whom you are willing to spend effort making her happy, while she is willing to spend effort making you happy. To see if we basically agree about life and where we want to head in life. Possibly, but only if both of you resolve your differences.
You need someone you respect and whom you basically agree regarding issues that are important in your life. But if you are starting out with unresolved issues, then it would be a tragic mistake to marry such a person. It is not a tragedy when a couple finds out after dating for a while that they are not a match. Sure, it hurts to break up with someone who you like, but with whom you cannot come to a full agreement. If it isn't going to happen, then you are wasting your time and her time.
The truth is that there are thousands of woman whom you could happily marry.Whereas Catholic courtship used to be passed from father to son, the Catholic resurgence in young adults has left many men without the focus necessary to sustain a true courtship.Catholic male courtship focuses intensely on respect, patience, and prayer. In choosing a woman to ask on a date, the Catholic Gentleman looks for a woman who obtains many of the virtues found in the Blessed Mother.He strives to find a woman who is patient, kind, appropriately dressed, and socially graceful.He avoids women who call attention to themselves and those who dress impurely.