Hold onto your seats, ladies, this might come as a major shock: men to make you happy. I know it can sometimes feel like he’s intentionally trying to make your life more difficult, and while he may be driving you nuts, deep down all he really wants is to provide for you and give you what you need. Men aren’t women (sorry to throw another shocker at you there! They aren’t able to intuit the nuances and decipher the clues.If you want him to give you what you want, tell him what it is that you want!We get a lot of questions that go something like: “I’m really confused, my boyfriend says he’s crazy about me and I’m the most amazing/wonderful/smart/funny/etc girl he’s ever dated but he always blows me off and he can’t hang out and doesn’t have time to talk on the phone or text back or take me out on dates and I really only see him late at night when he feels like it.” OK, maybe not exactly like that, but close enough.Men intuitively know that words are important to women.The trick is to do it in a way that’s encouraging, not one that’s threatening, demanding, or nagging.When he does something you like and appreciate, acknowledge it and reward him for it.While she’s trapped in her head, she’ll ignore all the amazing things he does for her, the things that should show her beyond a shadow of a doubt that he loves her! This doesn’t mean they’re incapable of feeling love, – it just means they often have a hard time saying it out loud.
Don’t despair – I have a little secret that is sure to perk you up: men – yes, those creatures who are so often the bane of our very existence, the ones who puzzle us and tear us apart inside, the ones that cause so much grief but always keep us coming back for more – are not all that difficult to understand.When he sees he can make you happy, he will be motivated to do whatever he can to keep you happy.You might be thinking: “But I always tell him what I want and he still doesn’t do it!The fact that a man doesn’t text you as much or as often as you’d like doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you – he’s usually just focusing on something else and most men have a difficult time seeing beyond a given task at hand.This is hard for most women to understand because women can switch from one task to the next and back again with much more ease.