If you come without female company it will not take long until one of the girls spontaneously comes over to you (not the one that takes your order) or you make eye contact with one of them and when you return her smile she will come over.
Standard what she says is like “Hi what your name where you from you come to Thailand for holiday I like you you buy me drink?
There comes the second and most significant part of the Thai bar girl’s income: her price for sex.
You have usually two options: Short time, means one shot and for about one or two hours and long time, means several shots and she stays with you until breakfast the following day (or brunch).
If you have just a couple of Thai girl friends with normal jobs like most expats in Thailand do using Thai Cupid, even uni girls that do no sideline and learn to speak Thai you will easily be able to tell the difference between a good and bad Thai girl not only by how they are speaking but also by how they behave.
Some are just out for sexual adventures while others are looking for a girlfriend or wife but what most of them have in common is they go for bar girls.
The market of prostitution for Thai men is far bigger than for foreigners but Thai men would never let anyone see them hanging out with a hooker or walking around with her in the shopping mall as it would totally damage their reputation.
A lot of foreigners even go as far as marrying bar girls and / or taking them to their home countries – but that should be a different story.
Bar girls use it very rarely while Thai girls with a good character do use it in every other sentence – especially when talking to strangers and getting to know new people. You just have to be honest with yourself and don’t believe them too easily that they really like you because it’s their job to make you feel that way so they can get at your money.
It’s important to know that there is only one reason why Thai girls decide to work in the bar: Because they come from very poor families with the majority from the northeastern region of Thailand (Isaan) and so they are working not just to support themselves but basically the whole family. Of course there are always exceptions and you can have a successful long term relationship with a Thai bar girl though you have to be aware that you are most likely supporting her financially all the time because she hasn’t got a CV to apply for a normal job (except if you buy her a Thai restaurant or massage shop here or in your home country – but then it’s also you who makes all the investments and owns the business so she is kind of your employee that way).